To turn on someone you love: what is Codependency

We hear much today about someone or codependent. Used in the context of drug abuse discuss how someone displays inappropriate caring for the face and allow the destructive or self-destructive behavior of a person to continue. The enabler requires the other person can depend on. There is too much involvement with the addict and a difficulty in carrying out tough love.

Before identifying yourself as a codependent or activation, you should consider several things. People should not label themselves as codependents without review of their personal environment and situations. Sympathy or compassionate towards the problems of an individual suffering does not mean that you're a codependent. On the other hand, if you allow an active alcoholic or addict living with you free of charge and pay all accounts, then you should look at your conduct. The simple reason is allow you to continue with the destructive behaviors towards you and themselves. Of course, there is a level of genuine love and care for the person who is an addict. However, there is often a strong view in person and it is your "work". If destructive behavior continues for years, then you can unwittingly sabotage the chances of the individual receiving better. The level of unconscious after may still fear that if the person to heal and get better will leave and move.

If you grew up with a mother who was an alcoholic or drug user, this often leads to codependency. Without self-knowledge, this can also lead succeeded in marrying someone like your parents also suffers from an addiction. In order to overcome the codependency, it is useful to attend support group meetings. After hearing about the ways that others give money to someone with a culture of addiction, often insights occur on your behavior. You can start to ask why I give money to someone you know will result in the use of drugs or to buy vodka.

Commonly used catalyst for reflection on their own needs and what they want. This is an important exercise to do. What usually is the other person: Did he drink today? Did he make of the car payment? There is almost a relief not focusing event; but I worry about someone else. Gain insight about yourself is the best way to help another person and free from the cycle of change.